Sunday, May 17, 2015
Siblings are Watching
My first born will be 6 today and I couldn't be more proud of him and honored to be his daddy. I pray I can teach him from the mistakes I have made so he won't fall into the pitfalls. I seek the wisdom of our God so I will be able to teach him to live his life for the Lord, and if he strays, he will use the light of Christ to find his way back onto the path.
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
As a father with a special needs child it's very hard to make certain the typical children in the household are getting attention. I try my best to make sure Colton gets the due attention he needs and deserves. For most of his short life, it has been all about Carly for obvious reasons. Even when we are around friends and family everyone always asks about Carly. This doesn't matter if he is present or not. I fully understand it. I don't blame or want anyone to stop asking about her. As a dad, it's my job to make sure he understands that he is just as important than any of our children. I often times refer to us all as Team Chandler. I want him to feel apart of the team. There is always challenges. Every time our family leaves the house, we have to prepare around Carly. Food, diapers medicine etc. When we are out in public, we have to make frequent stops along the way to care for her, thus taking away from him and his other sister. In their eyes, it starts to appear its all about her, not the team. If you have other children in your family, don't forget to be there for them. It is very easy to let time slip by and lose that opportunity. Explain that being in your family is a "team" and everyone is created equal. The team needs to understand the life plan and guess who the Life Coach is, you. Tell them and show them you LOVE THEM and do it OFTEN....They are watching.